Free ressources

This page is about sharing with you some ressources that I believe are helpful and inspiring. I organized it in sections to be as clear as possible.


Here are the videos I made myself to present and explain some of the main tools and processes I use in my work. The references that I talk about in these videos can be found below in the book section.




Intro to the model
General Introduction
The Self
Intro to parts
What I love about IFS
Step 1
Step 2
Step 3
Step 4
Jackals and giraffes
What I love about NVC
The pre-circles
The circle
The post-circle

Books, websites, and blogs

In this section, organized by topic, I share resources that I recommend. I only put ressources that I know well and books that I read personally. I put all these ressources in their originally published language. On the bottom of the page, you'll find audio reviews of these books. I made the review in the original published language of the book.

Alternative relationship lifestyles and sexuality

  • "The Ethical Slut", Jeannet Hardy and Dossie Easton

  • "More Than Two", Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux. Very good though controversial book since Franklin Veaux's has been accused of abusive behaviors in his own relationships, that he mentions throughout the book to develop his framework of ethical non-monogamy. I highly recommend reading it alongside the testimonies of Veaux's partners about their story. It's the next link.

  • "Polyamory #metoo", website of the accountability pod regarding Veaux's alleged abusive behaviors, a must read if you read "More than two", see it here

  • "Sex from scratch : making your own relationship rules", Sarah Mirk

  • "Sex at dawn", Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

  • "The myth of monogamy", David P. Barash, Ph. D. and Judith Eve Lipton, M.D.

  • "Les fesses de la crémière", very well-written blog on open relationships, in french, see here

  • "Aimer plusieurs hommes", Françoise Simpère

  • "Guide des amours pluriels", Françoise Simpère



  • "Lying", Sam Harris

  • "Le mythe de la virilité", Olivia Gazalé

  • "Playdoyer pour l'altruisme", Matthieu Ricard


  • "The highly sensitive person", Elaine Aron

  • "The highly sesitive person in love", Elaine Aron

  • "The highly sensitive person's workbook", Elaine Aron

  • "Je pense trop", Christelle Petitcollin

  • "Je pense mieux", Christelle Petitcollin

  • "L'adulte surdoué", Jeanne Siaud-Facchin

History and sociology

  • "Mariage, a history", Stephanie Coontz

Internal Family System

  • "Introduction to the Internal Family System", Richard Schwartz, Ph.D.

  • "Why Did I Do That? How you make sense and why there is hope", Dorie Cameron, LICSW. An illustrated book presenting the IFS model in images, very good introduction to IFS for ths visual ones !

Manipulation and abusive relationships

  • "Echapper aux manipulateurs", Christelle Petitcollin

  • "Enfants de manipulateurs", Christelle Petitcollin

  • "Emotional blackmail : when the people in your life use fear, guilt and obligation to manipulate you", Susan Foraward, Ph. D.

Non-violent communication and conflict resolution

  • "Non-violent communication, a language of the Heart". Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.

  • "Cessez d'être gentil soyez vrai!", Thomas d'Ansembourg

  • "Difficult conversations", Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen



  • "Love 2.0", Barbara Frederickson, Ph.D. Life-changing book on what love is and how you can cultivate it. One of my favorites !

  • "The invisible gorilla and other ways our intuition deceive us", Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons

  • "L'estime de soi", Christophe André et François Lelord

Self-help and spirituality

  • "I will not die an unlived life". Dawna Markova

  • "The Four Agreements", Don Miguel Ruiz

  • "Trois amis en quête de sagesse", Christophe André, Alexandre Jolien, Matthieu Ricard



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Ludwig Hemeleers

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